I don’t think there are too many people, who are not in tune with you about pain. I know of one guy, who goes to meetings pretty regularly, who not only broke his back, but when treating him the doctors found cancer in his spine. Sometimes his chemo upsets him and he’ll miss an ocassional meeting, but he’s pretty much there and kidding around. He also has a step meeting he chairs once a week. I know of several women, who come hurting from Lupus. I know others including yours truly.
I talked to Sandy B’s. sponsor a week or so ago down in Va.Beach. He was recovering from lung cancer. He and Sandy talk every week long distance. The beat goes on.
Each of us have the cards that were dealt to us. It’s all in how we play them. We can accept the hand we’re dealt or throw the cards in. It’s up to us. None of us I think want the hand we’re dealt. But then I wouldn’t want the hand dealt to another.
None of us can compare our insides with someone’s outside. What I see may not be what’s going on in another’s life. Underneath each person has his or hers own pain. It’s enough for each of us. A friend of mine once said that God might give him more than he can handle, but not more than we can handle.
My take on it is just like the BB stated in Fred’s story. That the answer to all my problems is in the application of spiritual principles to them. I believe this because it’s been my experience, when I’ve awoke to that fact. Sometimes I’ve slept through it and suffered the consequences. Only then did I back pedal and get down to working this program.
Without belittling what you have been going through, I believe that there’s a big difference betwe! en pain and suffering. Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional. The latter is my choice in how I handle the pain.
I keep thinking about what the BB and the 12&12 talk about. That if God could take away that awful thing that was happening in my life, the alcohol, then God can do anything. Nothing was worse than that terrible nightmare that I was trapped in. Had I not reached the doors of this program, I was condemned to insanity and a terrifying death. That was my bottom.
We never have to do anything alone anymore. Loneliness is a suffering. It’s optional. I have the choice to place myself among others just like me. I can accept their support and I can return that by supporting them through whatever it is they have to go through. God works through these people. I see it everyday. It’s miraculous.
! Not diminishing the role of physicians in all of this. Doctors can and should be sought out, when we need them. I believe that God works through many of these good men. I remember a story in the BB about this. A surgeon, who told his story, but had the humility to state that all he could do was the surgery; it was up to God to do the healing and recovery. He had nothing to do with that. Medicine by itself has its limits. Faith doesn’t.
You asked for the numbers of women you can talk to. There are a number who are reading this and I’m sure they’ll look at your email address and get back to you. One who has suffered greatly from your problem and has been a great example in my life. One of my best friends.
More to be revealed. Ned
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