Had to stop today and think about the phrase “It is what it is”. The reason was that I have been dealing with a lot of tough situations. People who have some tough problems one way or another.
In fact this afternoon I spent some time on the phone with one of these, who is continually going through physical problems, which have tied them into a lot of emotional junk. Heard a lot of this these past few weeks. Not easy, but I think it’s what I need to do. Unavoidable.
It’s nothing new to someone like myself. I have my own stuff, but I learned a long time ago, from my sponsor and those old timers, that I need to have a positive attitude and not a negative. That allows me to walk past what I have been given. With a smile and often a laugh.
What am I talking about? I think it’s doing God’s will for me. Like the Twelfth Step. Freely giving what was freely given to me. The first part of that is staying sober a day at a time. Number one. And I try to do that. Sharing why we are here. Some of these problems seem to get in the way.
The rest is talking about how we can handle whatever it is we have in our hands. The physical and mental stresses. Exactly what I was given by so many of those old timers, who went through the same kinds of things in here. Right up to the end. Seen so many smiles in those old people at the close. Never want to ever forget these.
What I needed to share was what was given to me. To be grateful for the life we’ve been given. Sobriety and the spiritual gifts. How our lives have been changed. How they have been turned over. From the negative to the positive.
Anyway, despite all of this I had to feel grateful to my Higher Power, the program and the people in it, who have helped me to stay sober and change. I need to stop and think about all of this each and every day. And always to be willing to share all of this with others like me.