One of our members brought the subject of chaos and serenity up today. They were obviously suffering. That was apparent.
What hit me, because a Tradition was entered in as a second topic, was the Fifth Tradition. That the primary purpose of the group is to carry the message to the suffering alcoholic. And, I think that’s what the group was doing today. And I gathered that the message was spiritual. The solution to all our problems.
Just the mention of this person’s need for serenity brought the 12 Steps to mind. That’s what worked for me and I know, as expressed by others, what worked for them. And, if done in order, by the time I reached the Ninth Step, I received the 12 Promises. And I came to know the meaning of peace and was able to comprehend the word serenity, among other great gifts. What this person was seeking.
I don’t think any of us are free from the untidy mess chaos can bring into our lives. No one denied that today. But what is it that cleans up the mess within us? The first suggestion today was the regular attendance at meetings. I think we all agreed that no matter what the weight of the world on our shoulders brought us, we have often been relieved by just sitting there and listening. I know I have. And that’s just the beginning of the solution.
And again, working this program. Sharing with our sponsor and others is also one way to begin to climb out of the mess we have made. And often that is the truth we find out. Talking to an old friend today, we both agreed on this. How our minds, and in our case our big mouths, can lead to this.
Finally there is my relation with my Higher Power. However with me it should be my first appeal. But I think, when we are hit with this stuff we may not go there right away.
Again, in talking with others, we all agree that this stuff comes to us, especially early on in the program. Over time I have found, as others have, that the program itself alleviates the suffering. But patience is necessary, as we begin to learn and practice this program. Like the sign over the door says, Time Takes Time. An instant miracle to relieve us from having to make the necessary changes in our lives is not a reality. Only pain will wake us up to the fact that I have to surrender and accept what is necessary in this way of life. When I do I am gifted with peace and serenity.
As I talked to my friend we both had to laugh at the truth we have experienced. We’re never done. Still more to do no matter how long we’ve been sober. But that’s not a bad thing for me or my friend. It’s what keeps my attention on my primary purpose. Why I need to go to meetings. Why I need to pray and ask for the help I need. Why I need to be grateful.